"A loving relationship is one
in which the loved one is free to be himself/herself — to laugh with me, but
never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to
love himself/herself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon
freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart."-Leo F. Buscaglia
I love reading inspirational quotes and Leo F. Buscaglia is one of my favourite people with amazing quotes. Anyway, let's move on to what I want to share with you.
The
words “I love you” carry a lot of weight… or at least used to. Not sure about now.
Long
ago, a poor couple would be together all because of love; a man would do all he
could to be with the woman of his life because of love; a young couple would rather
die than not be with each other, because of love (Romeo & Juliette)… Need I
say more? You get the drift am on, yes? Good.
But I
often ponder “Is love enough”? In these tough inflation times, can you be in a relationship
if there is no money?
There
is a lot that goes on in a relationship. The beginning is the most exciting for
many couples; can’t keep apart for too long, talk on phone for hours on end,
call each other all the lovey-dovey names such as; sweetie, honey, sugar, baby,
munchkin etc…. New lovers are so obvious and easy to pick out from a crowd,
citing the PDA and all.
Today,
the pressure is on…. LOVE alone does not cut it. If you cannot provide for your
woman or family, or contribute financially to each other, lots of problems
might arise such as resentment, unhappiness, arguments and these lead to one of
the partners drifting away, cheating or other.
Falling
short in the financial department is a no-no hence people working their butts
off to make a good living. Men are out to impress, splashing money or trying to
prove to their mates that they got it.
It
seems today, one has to be able to sustain the demands that come within the
relationship. If both the man and woman are financially stable, the better; but
it is important they agree on how to handle their finances. I believe joint
accounts are not always a great idea because when things go wrong or if you
break up, one of you might put the other in jeopardy by using all the money or
taking off with it or whatever.
Relationships
are so complicated but I guess we complicate them with all the expectations and
standards we set. The simplest of things is usually the best. It is not that
simple to just be “in the moment” and enjoy without worry, suspicion, jealousy
and so on. Well, let me stop going on and on, I just want you to tell me if you
think a relationship in this day and age, can survive solely on LOVE.
By
the way, would you rather be single or in a relationship?
FYI,
I do not know which I prefer…. Lol. Both have their huddles to overcome but being a sucker of love, perhaps I prefer to be in a relationship....
xoxo
Cleopatra.
"Never idealize others. They
will never live up to your expectations. Don’t over-analyse your
relationships. Stop playing games. A growing relationship can only be
nurtured by genuineness."-Leo F. Buscaglia
"The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships."-Anthony Robbins