HAPPILY NEVER AFTER?!

Does love like that which was or is between our parents, grandparents and great grandparents still exist??

I think not.

I used to admire how my guardians and grandparents in my life related and always seemed to be so happy despite the circumstances. Their love was strong, genuine, true and stood all tests of time.

Today, no matter how long you have known someone, it will take a stranger to draw you two apart with the silliest of words/acts or circumstances.

I honestly tell you this, I used to be a hopeless romantic—yes, USED to be but not anymore. I believed in true love, fairy tale endings and happily ever after but blame it on all the cartoons I watched growing up. J Well, having been raised by a single mother (was not her choice, my father was murdered under unclear circumstances during the Obote II regime slightly before I was born. Yes, she was pregnant with me the time he was killed so you can imagine the hell she went through). I asked her lots of questions about my father from the age of six but I only got to know the whole bitter truth when I was nine. At the time, I felt angry at her for never telling me but to be honest, I would not have understood the facts earlier and now I look back and imagine the pain she felt, the loneliness for having lost her one true love. Yes, back then, at least they stuck it out and did the needful like seek permission from the girl’s parents to take her hand before anything happened.

Today, oh well, it is a whole different story! Morals are slowly but surely going down the drain and LOVE is confused with infatuation, status and material things. Men feel pressured to impress their fellow men (ego) by being with as many women as they can (in all aspects; sleep with, hang out with, unnecessarily have kids with… etc.) but never commit or if they do, it won’t be long before the bond is broken and is then called a ‘Divorce’, and this is due to petty issues that our parents, grandparents and great grandparents could bare and sort out amicably. I ask myself, ‘what is it? What is different? Why can’t relationships last? Why is there no more loyalty and fidelity in relationships these days?’ I f you know the answers, do share with the rest of us.

I tell you, most relationships now are ‘happily never after’. The married cheat on their partners, those dating have secrets and act more like roommates than romantic partners behind closed doors and they hardly share stuff about their life plans or hopes—in fact, with observation of most couples, the best friends of your boyfriend/girlfriend know more about what is going on in your partner’s life than you do. If I was in love, the first person I would want to share my good news or bad news with would be my other half/boyfriend/husband but today….. hmm…… Your partner might not be that supportive or attentive simply because there is someone or something else taking or consuming their time and minds. No matter how nice or good you are (man or woman), there is someone out there spending time with your partner; physically and mentally (texting, sexting, chatting via phone/internet e.t.c)!

I guess this explains why there are a lot more heartbreak and hate songs today as compared to long ago when everything was about unending love….. I rest my case. J  

What say you? Share your opinion with the rest of us please.