Does love like that which was or is between our parents,
grandparents and great grandparents still exist??
I think not.
I used to admire how my guardians and grandparents in my
life related and always seemed to be so happy despite the circumstances. Their
love was strong, genuine, true and stood all tests of time.
Today, no matter how long you have known someone, it will
take a stranger to draw you two apart with the silliest of words/acts or
circumstances.
I honestly tell you this, I used to be a hopeless
romantic—yes, USED to be but not anymore. I believed in true love, fairy tale
endings and happily ever after but blame it on all the cartoons I watched
growing up. J Well,
having been raised by a single mother (was not her choice, my father was
murdered under unclear circumstances during the Obote II regime slightly before
I was born. Yes, she was pregnant with me the time he was killed so you can
imagine the hell she went through). I asked her lots of questions about my
father from the age of six but I only got to know the whole bitter truth when I
was nine. At the time, I felt angry at her for never telling me but to be
honest, I would not have understood the facts earlier and now I look back and
imagine the pain she felt, the loneliness for having lost her one true love.
Yes, back then, at least they stuck it out and did the needful like seek
permission from the girl’s parents to take her hand before anything happened.
Today, oh well, it is a whole different story! Morals are
slowly but surely going down the drain and LOVE is confused with infatuation,
status and material things. Men feel pressured to impress their fellow men
(ego) by being with as many women as they can (in all aspects; sleep with, hang
out with, unnecessarily have kids with… etc.) but never commit or if they do,
it won’t be long before the bond is broken and is then called a ‘Divorce’, and
this is due to petty issues that our parents, grandparents and great
grandparents could bare and sort out amicably. I ask myself, ‘what is it? What
is different? Why can’t relationships last? Why is there no more loyalty and
fidelity in relationships these days?’ I f you know the answers, do share with the
rest of us.
I tell you, most relationships now are ‘happily never
after’. The married cheat on their partners, those dating have secrets and act
more like roommates than romantic partners behind closed doors and they hardly
share stuff about their life plans or hopes—in fact, with observation of most
couples, the best friends of your boyfriend/girlfriend know more about what is
going on in your partner’s life than you do. If I was in love, the first person
I would want to share my good news or bad news with would be my other
half/boyfriend/husband but today….. hmm…… Your partner might not be that
supportive or attentive simply because there is someone or something else
taking or consuming their time and minds. No matter how nice or good you are
(man or woman), there is someone out there spending time with your partner;
physically and mentally (texting, sexting, chatting via phone/internet e.t.c)!
I guess this explains why there are a lot more heartbreak
and hate songs today as compared to long ago when everything was about unending
love….. I rest my case. J
What say you? Share your opinion with the rest of us
please.
